Question: I see that a lot of people are pondering whether to spit or swallow during oral sex. The whole thing kind of grosses me out. Is it OK to do the deed with a condom present? Is it less pleasurable for the guy?
Answer: It may feel just great to some guys, while others will say they can't feel very much at all. One way to find out for sure is to ask.
The most important feelings here, however, are yours. If the idea and/or reality of tasting, spitting, and/or swallowing ejaculate, or oral sex in general, makes your stomach turn, then how enjoyable can giving oral sex to your partner's point of no return really be for you? Condoms are a reliable option for keeping your partner's semen out of your mouth, not to mention the protection they give against the passing of sexually transmitted infections, such as gonorrhea and herpes. Still keeping your partner's penis on the back burner for a minute, how will a condom -- dry, flavored, or otherwise -- go over with your taste buds? Like a guy's preferences regarding rubberized fellatio, some women and men don't mind the taste of a condom, while others would rather suck on a dirty sponge. If you can get your hands on a condom, the answer to this one is easy: slip that baby over your three middle fingers and do a taste test.
Now back to your concerns about tasting and swallowing semen. Know that giving oral sex and receiving your partner's ejaculate don't have to come as a package deal. For example, a man can pull out prior to climax, or he can notify his partner when he's about to come so that s/he can stand clear.
Talking about feelings, options, and what one will and won't do sexually -- BEFORE you find yourself doing it -- can cut worries about what you might be asked to do in the heat of the moment. The good news is that if something doesn't feel right to you now, or in the future, you don't have to do it.
Barrier methods for giving oral sex on the penis (fellatio) include:
- Non-Lubricated Condom
Pros
- Easy to find in drugstores
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Cons
- Some say it's dry or don't like the taste
- Only protects what it covers
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| Directions on Use: If available, place some water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils) in the tip of the condom. Put the condom on the penis. After you are done, throw away the condom. |
- Flavored Lubricated Condoms
Pros
- Sometimes can be found in drug stores
- Some teen-friendly clinics carry different varieties
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Cons
- Some say that the lubrication feels/tastes more like Chap stick
- Only protects what it covers
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| Directions on Use: If available, place some water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils) in the tip of the condom. Put the condom on the penis. After you are done, throw away the condom. |
- Kiss of Mint Condoms
Pros
- Many find mint a more favorable flavor
- Condom is not lubricated
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Cons
- Hard to find. Generally, only adult stores open to people over 18 carry this product. You may want to try teen-friendly clinics as well
- Only protects what it covers
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| Directions on Use: If available, place some water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils) in the tip of the condom. Put the condom on the penis. After you are done, throw away the condom. |
Another Article on Oral Sex using a condom:
How to Perform Safer Oral Sex
Risks for HIV: There is some risk involved in having unprotected oral sex with a man or a woman. It is not as risky as unprotected anal or vaginal sex, but it is still possible to get HIV this way. There have been a few documented cases where HIV has been transmitted this way. HIV is found in blood, semen (cum), vaginal fluids, and breast milk. The virus can transmitted through cuts, openings, sores, and mucous membranes (mouth, anus, vagina) on your body.
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To avoid risks during oral sex it is important to:
- Keep semen and vaginal fluids out of your mouth.
- Make sure that your mouth is healthy and that you don't have bleeding gums, cuts, or mouth sores, because the presence of blood will increase your risk.
Oral Sex On a Woman
In order to keep vaginal fluids out of your mouth:
- Purchase a dental dam, or
- Use a a piece of plastic wrap (Saran Wrap) as a barrier between the mouth and the vagina, or
- Cut an unlubricated condom into a latex square (see left)
Oral Sex On a Man
In order to keep cum out of your mouth:
- Use an unlubricated, non-spermicidal condom
- Flavored condoms
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The above articles were adapted from the following web sites:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1614.html
http://wso.williams.edu/orgs/peerh/sex/safesex/oralsex.html
